Everyone has a best friend right? You know that person you can hang out with for hours and have conversations like you’re characters in the Gilmore Girls? You go to galleries and make fun of artists for trying to be #deep. People confuse you and get secretly jealous at how you fit together. You take great joy in joking about your other friends’ boring relationships but will still secretly listen to Adele when you’re alone.
And then one night they’ll meet them. It might be at a party. Or a bar. You might even introduce them. Maybe you’ll know it then. But before they fall in love you’ll still be best friends. They’ll have their first date and you’ll be getting drunk and singing Destiny’s Child at a tacky karaoke bar. You’ll have dinner and they won’t mention the date. A few dates later and they’ll begin admitting that something might be happening. They’ll be tentative but you’ll be overjoyed.
Hungover, you’ll notice they’ve changed their relationship status on Facebook without telling you. They’ll start taking Instagram photos at concerts they go to and think tweeting about seeing an art house movie together is #interesting. You won’t see them for weeks and one night you’ll realise you’re becoming frustrated by what’s happening. But there isn’t anything to fix. There isn’t a fight to make up after and they’re not unhappy.
When you do see them they’ll be with them and their smile will seem brighter than it did before. You’ll talk about the weather and they’ll ask questions about your family. Instead of being best friends you’ll feel like awkward second cousins who only see each other at Christmas and family weddings. That’s when it will hit you. While your friend has been getting their life together, you’ve been drunk, single and playing Pokemon. You’ll feel about as empty as Kirsten Dunst’ face in Melancholia, except it’s not the world that’s ending, it’s your friendship.
One day you’ll bump into an old friend at a party. They’ll tell you they’ve just been dumped and you’ll make tentative plans to catch-up for dinner sometime. You’ll worry about what to talk about because you haven’t seen them for ages. But hey, if things go really badly, you could always talk about how all your friends in relationships got boring.